How to stop screwing yourself over – SCN Encourager

The TEDx talk by this title attracted more than 10 million views

I guess we’re our own worse enemies after all.

Screen Shot 2016-05-04 at 9.41.16 PMAnd relationship expert and life coach Mel Robbins believes we (AKA you, me) have the power to reboot this reality.

Maybe you’ve got what it takes to do this.


I’m not so sure.

Robbins contends that whenever we have an impulse to get going on a goal (like getting out of bed in the morning or going for a run), both our mind and body team up to conspire against us.

It seems neither one likes change and will do what it can to persuade us to keep things “just as they are.”

Our body will drag and lag… while our mind manufactures rationales and excuses for not taking action.

Screen Shot 2016-05-04 at 10.06.55 PMThis is why snooze alarms are so popular.

And why we sometimes don’t act in our own best self-interest.

Robbins calls this “the knowledge – action gap.”

(Just what you needed, right?… another “gap” to track and close.)

This gap is the wide chasm of time which exists between what “we know we should do” and when we actually get around to doing it, if ever.

After much study, Robbins has found that we all have about 5 seconds to take action on our goal-oriented impulses.

She describes these 5 seconds as our natural inclination to hesitate.

If we hesitate to get our butts moving within 5 seconds of a goal-oriented impulse hitting us, the chances are high that we’ll never get going on it at all.

Screen Shot 2016-05-04 at 10.33.41 PMThis is a crucial concept to understand–

The importance of taking action within 5 seconds.


It’s the way to finally get our minds and bodies back working for us, back on our side.

Like I said, I’m not so sure about this in my case.

I know my mind.

And I know my body.

I’m still hopeful I can find better partners than these two!

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